Between December 28 and January 5 ever notice how many times you hear the phrase: “New Year, New Me”?
From what I understand, it implies that to be happy you must completely change who you are. People swear by this, and on January 1, 2019 some of us woke up full of energy ready to step out brand-spanking new for the first day after their mystical transformation. The “first page of a 365-page book” as many social media statuses would confirm.
Yet, as life kicks in, the shine dulls, and the motivation wears off and it’s just a matter of time till we give up on this ‘new us’ and decide that next year will surely be our year. Why? Because thinking that everything in your life will change along with the date is an extremely unrealistic expectation to hold.
I’m not sure if we realise, but getting your life together, starting a new habit, changing your curtains and cleaning your house can happen at any stage, on any day of the year. What we should be doing is taking that same enthusiasm and energy and determination from New Years into each month and each week.
It’s no wonder the new year starts with so much promise but doesn’t live up to its potential.
Give yourself some time and the tools you need to accomplish the attainable goals on your long list. Invest in creating the environment where you can flourish. Most likely accomplishing what you desire is going to be difficult. That’s something we hardly take into consideration – all the ups and downs and challenging times in-between setting goals and reaching them. And I believe this is one of the main reasons why resolutions don’t last the year. It’s cute and fun and ambitious to have resolutions but no one expects that suddenly starting a new habit would be as difficult. Let me break it to you – it is, and we need to take that into consideration.
What we should also keep in mind is that the new year is full of chances and opportunities. It is a blank slate. And if we look at it objectively and plan strategically, then ideas start to form shape and mean something more than a few points on a list. Sure, you may want to stop smoking, lose weight or learn a new language but its easy to lose focus and slip away within the first month of the year without a proper plan.
Remember: “What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year” – Vern McLellan.