Moving from one stage of life to another has been such an amazing journey.
Watching myself and those around me transform has been so fascinating and rewarding. Which is why I’m always confused when a 40- year- old woman wants to remain (and be referred to as) a 22-year-old.
I’ve never missed any stage that I’ve already been through. Never again do I want to be a high school student or a college student and I certainly don’t want to be any younger than my age. When my peers experience waves of nostalgia and beg to be 16 again, I’m all but ready to pull my hair out. Why on earth would anyone want to be 16 twice? At 16 you’re face is breaking out in acne every other week, your emotions are all over the place, you’re fighting with your parents and your siblings and yourself, it’s a constant battle juggling school and peer pressure and finding out who you are and what you want from life. No, that was an experience that helped to shape me into the person I am today and it’s over. Thank God!
So, now that I’m doing a bit of growing up and entering into a completely new realm of life I can say that I’m starting to feel the growing pains. But more importantly, I’m starting to see change, And that change is something I look forward to with each transition. But, it wasn’t always like this.
Though I enjoy moving from one stage to the other – the actual transition period used to be a very bumpy ride. Seized with uncertainty and anxiety it was difficult to see the road ahead or to remember why the change was important or necessary. Sometimes I would take long pauses in between the process because it would become so exhausting. I had to realize that the rest of the world doesn’t wait for you just because you’re going through a difficult or challenging time. You still have to function and contribute to the wider scheme of things despite your personal difficulties. And sometimes, that’s a hard pill to swallow.
When things get difficult we often want the world to stop to accommodate us, and when that doesn’t happen some of us react in a way that hinders or harms our stage of personal growth and development. I believe it’s understandable to pause and recollect your thoughts or adjust your plans but I don’t think it is okay to stop the entire process and remain at one stage.
In life we’re supposed to outgrow things; that’s just how life works. However, the way we approach certain situations that are thrown at us ultimately shapes the course of the rest of the journey. So if you’re about to change schools, change jobs, retire or change vehicles the same rules apply.
Give yourself time to ease through the motions of change. Let yourself adjust to the initial discomfort. Keep in mind it’s best to acknowledge and address your thoughts and feelings as they come and don’t let uncertainty and fear cloud your judgment. This is one of the best opportunities to test your limits and find out what you’re made of. But, when things get overwhelming it’s best to reach out to someone you trust to be a source of strength and encouragement. Let them know how you’re feeling and allow them to help you.
When times get tough just remember: it’s not easy, but it’s definitely worth it. Once you muster the courage to change the page, the new chapters of life are some of the greatest experiences you’ll ever have.